in my mind this is how i put it . although it is a bit weird for the age gap between violet and gilbert to be so far apart ( 10/21 as the timeline shows ) , while all the time taking care of violet , he never made any advances toward her , or made his feelings apparent , and it’s very clear that gilbert didn’t have any sexual desire for the young girl , romance or not , he did fall in love with her . throughout the time where violet was being taken under gilbert’s wing and after she’d finally come to understand the meaning of ‘ i love you ‘ , as you can tell there had been no manipulation or anybody trying to convince violet that her love for gilbert , as well as his love , was romantic . her feelings were understood by her as she was taught the different types of love between partners , such as leon and his love for her , and between loved ones , such as oscars love for his daughter , or anns love for her mother . their love had always been platonic , and if the writers decide to change that in the sequel and make violet and gilbert partners , it wouldn’t be weird as violet would be 18 and gilbert would be 29 .
i know some of y’all wasn’t satisfied with the ‘ it was back in the old days where age gaps were normal ‘ argument so i just wanted to bring some light and help understand before the movie came out and everybody would be weirded out lol . i’m new here but looking through the wiki , i was reading the comments and just wanted to let people know that gilbert and violets love for one another WASNT weird